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Tuesday, September 28, 2010
Sunday, September 26, 2010
Actually this is the most taboo topics in our community and i can't believe that i am actually blogging abt it. Marriage kind of open my eyes abt things that i cant imagine.
First of all, you may ask this question on how well do you know your partner? This cld lead to the anwer for my topic today.
Sex/Sexual relationship.
Quote: A word of advise for "virgin brides" and any women who postpones engaging in all forms of sexual activity until they are in their twenties or later.. Women who do so, often value their virginity greatly or else they would not have waited for so long to become sexually active. As such, it means a lot to them and they have high sexual expectations regarding their first time. The problem lies in having had no past sexual experiences you are probably not ready for intercourse, or for that matter, anything more than hugging or kissing. My advise to these women is to slowly develop their sexual skills one at a time over an extended period of time before having intercourse with their partner. It might be a wiser choice to celebrate your first anniversary by having intercourse for the first time versus doing so on the night of your wedding when you are probably stress and tired. You are likely going to be married for years.. so there is no need to try and do everything on the first night or first week. The thrill of doing it wld not wear off if you wait, if anything, the anticipation will grow as you and your partner develop your sexual relationship. In addition, it is usually not good for marriage or commited relationship if pregnancy occurs within the first year."
It makes me think of my own experience so far...
On why does my sexual life becomes such a mess?
There are many factors included such as:
1) Inconsiderate and un-caring husband. Does not bother to foreplay or read up on first time sex, old-fashioned thinking on woman have to give in to sex for first night n even though in pain. Did not know how to pacify n make thgs comfortable for the wife.
2) My fear of pain n no basic knowledge on sex.
3) Traditional family with old fashioned thinking that do not talk abt sex.
4) Low trust in husband. Scared that he wld hurt you.
5) Does not explore myself sexually down there.
6) Put so much hopes n expectations for hubby coz he's experience.
7) Putting the blame on each other.
8) Husband easily gives up and can't maintain an erection...
I am really sad abt this happening in my marriage... n i really hope that I cld overcome this. Its so early in a marriage n i felt that I am becoming less a women... I am confident that I wld overcome it. Amin...
First of all, you may ask this question on how well do you know your partner? This cld lead to the anwer for my topic today.
Sex/Sexual relationship.
Quote: A word of advise for "virgin brides" and any women who postpones engaging in all forms of sexual activity until they are in their twenties or later.. Women who do so, often value their virginity greatly or else they would not have waited for so long to become sexually active. As such, it means a lot to them and they have high sexual expectations regarding their first time. The problem lies in having had no past sexual experiences you are probably not ready for intercourse, or for that matter, anything more than hugging or kissing. My advise to these women is to slowly develop their sexual skills one at a time over an extended period of time before having intercourse with their partner. It might be a wiser choice to celebrate your first anniversary by having intercourse for the first time versus doing so on the night of your wedding when you are probably stress and tired. You are likely going to be married for years.. so there is no need to try and do everything on the first night or first week. The thrill of doing it wld not wear off if you wait, if anything, the anticipation will grow as you and your partner develop your sexual relationship. In addition, it is usually not good for marriage or commited relationship if pregnancy occurs within the first year."
It makes me think of my own experience so far...
On why does my sexual life becomes such a mess?
There are many factors included such as:
1) Inconsiderate and un-caring husband. Does not bother to foreplay or read up on first time sex, old-fashioned thinking on woman have to give in to sex for first night n even though in pain. Did not know how to pacify n make thgs comfortable for the wife.
2) My fear of pain n no basic knowledge on sex.
3) Traditional family with old fashioned thinking that do not talk abt sex.
4) Low trust in husband. Scared that he wld hurt you.
5) Does not explore myself sexually down there.
6) Put so much hopes n expectations for hubby coz he's experience.
7) Putting the blame on each other.
8) Husband easily gives up and can't maintain an erection...
I am really sad abt this happening in my marriage... n i really hope that I cld overcome this. Its so early in a marriage n i felt that I am becoming less a women... I am confident that I wld overcome it. Amin...
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